The list of things I haven’t done with/for kid #2, that I did do with/for kid #1 could fill …the infinity stretch part of my old maternity jeans. …the long expanse of the night wherein I used to sleep. …the deep cavernous hole in my life that was once filled with finding something to do because I had time to fill.
In short, I’m a that regular mom who has dropped the ball with her second child in all of the usual ways but they sound super terrible when I list them…
- I did not make a pregnancy book with my second because managing that pregnancy and a sensitive toddler took more time and energy than I had. With my first, the days felt like forever between the next week’s baby bump entry. You guys! Do you remember those long days before kids? Now let’s forget those days. We’re parents now those days aren’t for us anymore.
- I did not keep a baby book for my second because postpartum depression + baby and a toddler = management capacity. Memories-shmemories, I was just trying to get us through the day. Oh man I regret this one, but I do have tons of pictures and I kept milestone notes in the notes section of my phone. OMG I’m the worst mom ever. “Here is your beautiful baby book, Child #1. Here are a few shorthand notes I entered into my phone, Child #2.” Worst. Mom. Ever.
- I haven’t taken my second to all of the baby sing-alongs, gymnastics classes, and play groups that I took my first to. She does get to do pre-K pick-up with me! So fun!
So all things considered, I guess it isn’t a big deal that I never made any new feeding bibs for my second kid. I have clearly dropped the ball in major ways. And our feeding bib supply, although made for my first kid, still do the job!
But this is our real life. We are knee-deep in the good, bad, and temper tantrums. I may not always have all the details nice and tidy, but I will drop everything to do a puzzle when my youngest asks. She’s obsessed! My arms are always available for snuggles through the good and bad, and most importantly, I shower both of my girls with lots and lots of love and positive vibes all day long.
PS. Check out the durable bibs in my pen&thimble Etsy shop for your first, second, and third kid. 🙂